Why you should take yourself out on a date
I want to take myself out on a date
and practice my love languages on myself,
break some ground in uninhibited laughter
while slowly forgetting time i wasted on chasing the wrong people
and make peace with my own awkward banter
because there is no one as precious as you are to your self
as there is no one more important than I am, to my own.
I wrote this poem as a small reminder to thrive in my own company. It’s still 2020 and things are getting better but this year has taught me a lot about companionship. How solitude can sometimes be pleasurable enough to experience calmness. We can be mindful of our own presence, gain clarity of our thought processes.
How solitude can sometimes be pleasurable enough to experience calmness
I have always wanted to understand love languages but never even thought about using them on me. This idea was foreign to me, yet it intrigued me enough to want to try it out. The question was what would you do on a date (with yourself)? Here will come the many things that you will have always wanted to do, but never got the time or company for. For me, this includes visiting bookstores, quiet cafes and the list goes on. There is no one to judge, and you don’t have to worry about finances. It’s a day or an evening to yourself, fully immersed in what you want to do. It’s a step closer to finding personal independence, on an emotional level.
I would always cook something or do something for someone but never thought about doing it for myself on the first place.
This idea ain’t novel, it came in my YouTube recommendations and if has been to yours too, you would be familiar to @ bestdressed aka Ashley’s video. Its tailored to her life, but still remains a good concept.
I want to take myself out on a date
and practice my love languages on myself,
Life goes on unbothered, and sometimes you carry too much on your shoulders (well, that rhymed) but you can live it up, indulge in what you love, cook for yourself, journal how you feel, let those intense emotions get out of your body and mind.
And that will be true healing.
